Tag: Personal Development
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We Have to Find a Way to Love Our Brokenness
We have to find a way to love our brokenness No, not loving ourselves in spite of our failings But loving the brokenness itself We have to love all the ways we’re late And all the ways we missed the point We have to love that we were scared And that we were ashamed to say it We have to love that…
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Navigating Complex Systems
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Do One Thing
In the days since the US presidential election, I’ve been overwhelmed by emotions and information. My social media feeds are filled with calls to action—invitations to meet, make phone calls, donate money, write postcards, march in the streets. Others’ words have comforted and challenged and saddened and filled me, yet I have had difficulty finding…
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Waking from Busyness
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Bringing Emotional Intelligence into Balance
There is no denying that the world could use a booster shot of Emotional Intelligence (EQ): greater ability to read the emotional states of others, more awareness of our own inner states and how our behavior is viewed by and affects others, more emotional fluidity… Please, bring it on! Of course, the way things seem…
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Intersection of Family and Philosophy
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Bringing the Wisdom of the Heart into Coaching
James was interviewed recently by Joel Monk, co-founder of Coaches Rising. This interview one of a series leading up to the Coaches Rising Summit, a month-long online seminar featuring many lumiaries in the coaching field including Otto Scharmer, Jennifer Garvey Berger, Richard Strozzi-Heckler, James, and others. This half-hour interview covers: Why relating to our clients as…
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The Joy of Direct Experience
I was taking advantage of the long summer days to catch up on some much-needed gardening when I found the book. The Cichlid Aquarium had been in our garage since my husband and I had moved in 13 years ago, weathering all the extremes Michigan could conjure, including two of the worst Midwestern winters on record. Yet,…
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No One Is An Island
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How Yoga Aids Coaching, Healing, and Growth
Yoga is my lifeline. It serves my body through asana, keeps me mentally sane and quiets my heart. If I want to hold others as a coach, supervisor and mentor—which is what I love doing—I must know how to hold myself, staying safe, centered and grounded, so I can be completely available to the one…
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7 “Easy” Steps
There are so many books and programs out there that are based on “steps to success” for whatever you want to achieve: being a good parent, being happy, having a great relationship, being loved and admired. Just give me the steps to follow so that I can [fill in the blank]. What is it in…
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Coaching and Social Justice
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Touching worlds
I am most delighted, Your gracious presence In my garden just now, Filling this space with me, Drawing my beating heart to yours, Connecting our often fragile worlds, In this hallowed moment. As you touch my world, Effervescent with bird-song And bird-flutter, The world of connection, Between you and me, The world as it should…
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Working with Our Trauma Stories
There is much trauma in the world, and I mean Trauma with a capital “T”. After our NVW Book Study Group visited with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, the author of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma, I felt grateful that he shared his story of working to…
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Back to the Garden
The myth of the Garden of Eden is so brilliant and powerful because it expresses our sense of having profoundly lost something essential and elemental from our lives, something we need. We long to return to the peace and beauty of the garden. It’s a place we feel we once knew but from which we’ve been exiled, and we…
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Episode 2: Why Does Coaching Matter?
In our second episode of Stepping In, we explore the topic of coaching itself. What is it to create a safe space for a client? Why is the coach’s own self-development so important? What makes the Integral Coaching methodology effective? We dive into these and other questions with our special guest Lizzie Winn. Want a…
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The Relationship Between the Enneagram and Integral Coaching
Listen to James Flaherty discuss how Integral Coaching® uses the Enneagram to support clients in expanding their ability to self-observe, thereby opening the possibility to self-correct. This interview was part of the Enneagram Global Summit 2016, a free online event which featured today’s top teachers who brought together Enneagram wisdom and experience from around the…
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How and Why to Get Better at Failing
The ability to “fail well” is a skill we all need if we want to accomplish what we set out to do. Failing is really a cornerstone that all other skills are built on. Of course everyone has failed. Sometimes in highly visible ways. It is hard to get through this life without major setbacks.…
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The Importance of the Body
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I Love You More Than You Can Know
My grandfather had chaired an English department for many years and had watched me attend his alma mater for my first graduate degree. When I came home, he would sit back in his recliner, tapping his fingers on the arm. He would quote a line or two from Shakespeare or talk about how mad he…