Category: Resources
Aligning Thoughts and Actions: a 2-Part Exercise
This article was originally published on the Mindful Leader blog in October 2020. The “Integral” in Integral Coaching has a few different meanings. It points to the multiple traditions and disciplines that weave together to form the method itself. It indicates the ways that coaches synthesize all they know and are learning to support their…
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome by Normalizing Hardship
Michelle Obama was asked what hurt her most during her tenure as First Lady. She responded by saying, “The shards that cut me the deepest were the ones that intended to cut,” referring to the negative comments on social media. Among such comments include ‘she is an ape in heels,’ ‘her daughters don’t like her,’…
The People We Pick
How do they arrive? This year, in Brady-Bunch squares. Or, sometimes, 6 feet away on the porch. My world feels both bigger and smaller now. So few people are physically in my space. I can count the people I’ve hugged without using all the fingers on one hand. At the same time, next Friday I’ll…
The Shift from Control to Contribution
One of the most challenging lessons I have had to learn in my spiritual journey is my relationship to control. It was a tough pill to swallow, to confront how little control I have in and over life. As human beings, we tend to seek control because we think it provides us with a sense…
Fragments of Souls
It’s difficult for me to throw away pictures of people. People I love are the hardest, not really surprising at all. But a close second are the people pictured on packaging, especially if their faces are meant to evoke the workforce that brought the product to me. Of these, one of the most difficult is…
The Medicine of Walking
How Walking Makes Us Human In his incredible book, In Praise of Walking, author Shane O’Mara writes that walking separates humans from other animals. Walking upright “frees our hands for other tasks…makes our minds mobile…and changes our relationship to the world.” O’Mara even concludes that a baby who grows up in a non-human environment will…
Sensing Another’s True Nature
Often when we meet someone for the first time, we introduce ourselves by saying what we do, where we live, what we enjoy. Rarely do we speak about the most elusive yet most important aspect of our lives: who we are. This is very possibly because we don’t know, not really. This is because each…
Opening Windows
Othering lives within me. The parts of me that I love and the parts that I don’t. What gets neglected in me The corners of my soul that I don’t visit for fear of the unknown Or because I have forgotten. There are rooms in my soul that are filled with dust, Webs, and darkness.…
Renegotiating When Circumstances Shift
I recently got together with some friends for the first time since March. This event was a big deal for the whole group. To ensure everyone would feel comfortable, we agreed to get Covid tests and self-quarantine in the week leading up to our get-together. And yet, I still felt very wobbly about the whole…
The Tiger, The Strawberry, and the Role of Beauty
There is a well-known Zen story about a rather non-conventional response to impending doom. A man traveling across a field encountered a tiger. He fled, the tiger after him. Coming to a precipice, he caught hold of the root of a wild vine and swung himself down over the edge. The tiger sniffed at him…
I Am, Therefore I Celebrate
What does it mean to celebrate one’s self? How does one celebrate? Since debuting my book, the notion of celebration has been one I’m sitting with. I’ve been through many celebrations in my life, and fortunately, enjoyed a fair share of my own. Mostly, we head out for some nice food, a sumptuous meal outside…
How to Listen Mindfully
This post was originally published on the Mindful Leader blog in September 2020. Many of us spend the majority of our days in conversations of one kind or another. This is particularly true for coaches, therapists, and other practitioners who spend their time supporting others’ development. Bringing greater mindfulness to how we approach conversations with…
Somatics Were Key to My Healing
I heard the word Somatics for the first time during the Professional Coaching Course. Every day after lunch, our group would reconvene for fifteen minutes of dancing before starting the afternoon session. It seemed to me that everyone else looked forward to this part of the afternoon – whether they could move with abandon or…
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To Love This Much
I never wanted to love this way. The way in which the heart is wide open and you can feel the rawness of the flesh be touched by the gentle breeze of the morning. I never wanted to love this way. The way in which my heart worries about the wounded coyote I saw this…
Midlife, COVID-19 and Climate Change Crises: What Are We Learning?
Jett Psaris, PhD has written the most beautiful book I know about midlife crisis: Hidden Blessings: Midlife Crisis as A Spiritual Awakening. It is a book I recommend often to clients needing guidance in that stage of life. In it she writes: “Some experience their entry points into midlife as maximally disturbing, with overwhelming levels…
I ➙ We ➙ It: Integral Coaching in Corporate Leadership
This is a case study of an Integral Coaching program that my company, Praxsys Leadership, introduced into a mid-sized construction company. When we began our work together, the leadership team consisted of a half-dozen directors, each managing their individual functions in a siloed fashion. There was little collaboration and even less trust among the leaders.…
The Deeper Invitation in the Story of the Empty Boat
Like the Taoist Farmer story, the story of the Empty Boat is often used by coaches to help their clients gain perspective. Here’s a short version: A fisherman is on the water at dusk with poor visibility. He sees a boat coming right towards him and starts getting frantic and yelling for the fisherman steering…
Autumn’s Concerto
First Movement: Reminiscence The avenues were lined with gold, and the cobbled pavement, buried in brilliant scarlet. Poetically, that would have been how I’d like to describe the scene. Spending my third fall in the US and that clichéd touristy image of fall with its rich amber maple trees remains a fantasy. One reason was…
Shaping Our Presence to Be More Supportive
This article was originally published on the Mindful Leader Blog in June of 2020. In these days of heightened anxiety and insecurity, many of us are drawn to be a safe and reassuring space for those who are in crisis and afraid. And, when we’re in that often unavoidable place ourselves, we’re grateful to the…